|Change of perspective|
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Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. (Albert Einstein)
Change, ah, change.
How do you feel about change?
Recently I saw a friend I hadn't had a chance to chat with in a while. When I asked what she's up to these days, she replied "Not much...", and when I asked if she had any projects, she said "Well, a couple of things here and there in the house... but I have been feeling quite unproductive actually."
At that point, sensing it was not a happy topic for her, I simply said "Sometimes it's good for us to be unproductive. Plus, when you really feel like you need a change, you'll know, and you'll do something about it." I was smiling because I knew exactly how she was feeling: stuck in a rut yet not quite ready to shake things up.
That's a perfectly fine place to be in temporarily. We all need to stop and find our bearings.
Then sooner or later, a little voice inside of us tells us "Okay, now I'm really due for a change. Let's do it." And we go for it. We implement some change.
I have another friend who LOVES change. Rencently she broke up with a boyfriend of 5-6 years. When I asked her what had prompted the breakup, she said: "Oh, you know me, J. There was nothing wrong per se with the relationship. I was just not excited about it anymore. I needed a change."
Of course if you feel completely "blahed" about your relationship, it would probably be unfair to yourself and your partner to just stay there. Breaking up isn't necessarily the solution, but sometimes... it just is.
The interesting thing about change is that there is a fine balance to achieve: too much change and you'd end up stressed, exhausted. Too little change, and you'd end up bored and demotivated.
In the last year or so, I've been longing for some change. Not big, extreme change, but some change. And recently, it started happening.
My translation business is thriving, and I enjoy it, but I've been longing for something that would allow me to actually meet people (when I translate, it's only me and my computer). As I was pondering my options, my friend K informed me that the local private school was looking for a French teacher. I have taught French as a second language in the past, and loved it. So I applied. It went well. I am now teaching French 3 mornings a week (I'll still be translating the rest of the time).
Implementing this change in my life made me nervous for maybe... 48 hours? But now it makes me very happy.
It's even motivated me to change other things in my life. Now that I'm out of my comfort zone, but fully enjoying it, I figure, "Why not?"
There's something about change that makes everything tastier, more interesting, and that makes life feel worth living.
What have you changed in your life lately? What kind of change do you think could do you good?